Wendy's Memorial Message

Wendy passed away on June 11, 2013.  This is the message that she left for all of us...

What I’d like read at the memorial service after my death.

setting: Clermont State Park, on the lawn overlooking the river.

Dear friends, family, loved ones all,

I miss you.  And yet, know, that I am always with you.  Please know, believe, trust me - I have crossed over into a realm of extraordinary and limitless love.  What i know and experience in this realm is infinite expansive and unconditional love, a place of beautiful light and where beings communicate entirely through the heart - a deep and profound language of the heart.  

Before I was handed the cancer diagnosis, I likely could not have said such a thing.   That signalled the beginning of experiences and understandings never known before, at least not consciously.

It was through an ever-growing and deepening meditation and energy dance since the early months of the cancer diagnosis, that I touched again and again the extraordinary love of the cosmos.  One distinct example was when, during a session, I felt clearly and joyously and with tremendous gratitude that the cosmos, my Grande Mama, thrilled at being asked for help and love, that she absolutely adored giving and giving and giving.    There was/is no limit to what she will give.  I could not ask too often.  She simply always wanted to help, always wanted, wants, to share her love.  This really turns her on.  She loves to love.  

And that love is always “in the air”, so to speak.  It’s available to all of us in every moment.  It is the fabric of our beings, our environment, our cosmos.  It is the language most powerful, most awesome, most glorious.  Did you know that the heart is has a stronger electric magnetic field than the brain?  The electric field is about 100 times that of the brain.  And the heart’s magnetic field is 5000 times that of the brain.  It is flat out the single most powerful organ in our bodies.  And, sadly, in our society, it is sorely underused.  

Live from your hearts, dear loved ones.  Move according to what it feels and suggests.  We all know this experience when we fall in love, marry a mate or cherish a dear friend.  But what of all the other times, all the so-called ordinary moments of your lives.  What if you swam in the juices of love and compassion and let these guide you?  The way our brains and ego operate is to divide us.  The way of the heart is to bring us together, to remind us of just how fine we are, how magnificent truly.  Our society is sick from the over-emphasis on the brain and “rational” thought and the ego.   Don’t wait for special occasions to share love, to live your love, to let someone know that you love them, that they bring joy into your life, or to imagine the suffering of another, or to see and honor how extraordinary you are.    Do it in every moment.

for months before death, i did not fear death.  the approach to death troubled me, but not death.